WHAT kind of security should a man provide for his wife? Many people are raised to believe that a husband’s primary goal is to help his family to be financially secure. However, some wives who have plenty of material things still feel emotionally insecure—even terrified. A Spanish woman named Rosa, for example, says about the man she married, “With outsiders he was a likable man, but at home he was a rough husband.” Joy, who is from Nigeria, admits, “When I didn’t agree with my husband, he would say, ‘You have to do everything I say because I am your husband.’” How can a man fulfill his role as a husband in a loving way? What does it take for a husband to make his home secure, “a resting-place” for his wife?
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Although husband and wife have an equal standing, each spouse has a distinct role in the family. It's clear that a married woman comes under "the law of her husband." Just as many institutions appoint a head to oversee their affairs, husbands have been appointed by God to be head over their wife's. Husbands should take the lead in their household. But as husbands, how should you exercise your authority? "Continue to love your wives."
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Learn from experienced couples. Successful husbands always try to seek to refresh others and lighten their load. One of the best ways to imitate these fine examples and apply them is by looking for ways to lighting your wife's load. Some wives feel as did Rosa, who lamented: " I was nothing more than my husband's maidservant." In contrast, a man named kweku, who has a good marriage, says: " I often ask my wife how I can share the load. Because I love her, I often take the initiative to help her with household chores."
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Husbands need to do everything possible and maintain a considerate and empathetic attitude.When your wife does not feel well, show her extra consideration and be patient. Try to relate to her and understand her reactions. Ricardo, for example, explains, “When I notice that my wife is extra sensitive, I make a special effort to avoid saying things that could make her feel worse.”
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| Communicate more often with your wife, even though sometimes you might want to take some moments to stay alone.Communicate—from your mind and heart—with your wife. A woman may complain that her husband seems to have no trouble speaking in public but keeps silent at home. On the other hand, note how Ana feels when her husband opens up to her. “I sense that he really loves me,” she says, “and I feel close to him.” Refuse to use silence as a weapon to punish your wife. “When my husband was upset with me,” says one woman, “he refused to talk to me for days. He made me feel guilty and despised.” Edwin, however, tries to imitate good examples. “When I get annoyed, I don’t respond right away, but I look for the right moment for us to talk things out.”Still looking for a wedding photographer? Just contact us! Our managers will help you with all your questions and will create the most suitable packages for you. Our team consists of professional photographers and videographers. So if you want affordable wedding photography for affordable prices, just book our services. |
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